Three Self Care Acts for Mom Burnout
Being a mom is one of the hardest jobs. You don’t get to call in sick or take a mental health day. Even if you do manage to squeeze in a day without the kiddos, you’re still thinking or worrying about them constantly. Society will tell you that this kind of devotion to your kids makes you a good mom, but it can quickly lead to mom burnout.
To me, mom burnout is a little different than work-based burnout, because your kids are still your world. It tends to be your own self-care that falls to the wayside. Here are my top three go-to self-care acts for when I feel the mom burnout coming on strong.
I lean on my friends and family.
The saying “it takes a village” is so true. My boys are loved by so many people. I call upon my village when I need some time. My parents live quite far away, unfortunately; and this year has been extra tough not being able to see them as much as we usually do. I have an incredible nanny who is just like family to us. I also have a best friend who lives a few blocks away.
I truly cherish the extra support. It’s not like I can hand kids off for the day and spend the entire day alone (which I wouldn’t want anyways), but taking an hour to do a Pilates class or get a mani/Pedi can make all the difference for my mental state. Also, sometimes just having another adult to talk with while the kid’s play is enough. My friend often comes over around dinner time and we chat and she helps me with little things.
I include my kids in my self-care.
The boys love joining me for a little bit of yoga. As they move with me we all laugh, and I can physically feel the stress beginning to leave my body. It breaks the tension I’ve been feeling and subconsciously reassures me that, despite my feelings, I am a good mom. I know I am, but hearing the boys giggle as they try to follow along with a sequence is music to my ears. When the kids aren’t on my mat with me, I wake up an hour early to move my body and connect with myself before I’m on mom duty all day long.
My boys and I do many activities together that replenish all of our spirits; from yoga to meditation to beach walks to jumping on the trampoline, it all helps us alleviate tension.
I’m honest with my kids and my team.
For me, it really is as simple as asking the boys for a little extra love. Cuddling up with them is a great way to recharge. There really is nothing like snuggling with my little loves!
I’m also honest with my team, if I’m not in a great place mentally, and I ask for grace. I like to believe that my honesty is appreciated; and that they can also let me know if they’re going through a tough time that might affect their work.
At the end of the day, we know we are good moms! A little bit of mom burnout is nothing to be ashamed of and is actually quite easy to handle once we figure out what works for us. Our kids are everything to us – but if we want to take care of them, we have to take care of ourselves too. It’s just like the old adage goes, “put your own oxygen mask on first”.
Kristin McGee is a celebrity yoga and Pilates instructor in New York City. She is currently teaching yoga with Peloton. She is the star of over 100 videos, seen in several magazines and tv shows and is a spokeswoman for many brands and causes she believes in. A proud mom to three, she sure keeps herself busy!